Here is an essay about how one memoir showed me that we dig in rather than explore the greys in life. Women must remember how we wield power, and tap it, integrate it, realize it. Sometimes we react to injustice or betrayal by treating any foray into gradations as if it’s an existential threat to progress. I happen to think the opposite is true.
Holly
This is excellent! I too read the book and enjoyed it but there were many moments which made me pause………I know this was her story, her memory of what happened and how SHE felt but it sure did lack any attempt to explore his feelings………which left this reader wondering if that wasn’t one of the issues in the marriage.
The question we should ask ourselves is, How did we arrive at this new place? Not the place of a saucy divorce intrigue, a border skirmish between the well-heeled, a tell-all page turner. That is an old place.
But this charming new place where highly educated women band together in righteous indignation. Against men. To get tipsy on shared outrage. To share the joy of The Oppressed. Even if it's no longer true.
Did these “truths” of oppression rise up organically? Were they lying on the ground like ripe fruit? Or were they taught, poured into them like liquid truth.
But this "truth" has been swept away, and the righteous indignation remains. Why?
This is the important question.